Voice/How you say stuff

So since I got in the game since last year there have been instances when let's say I say something..the girl gets pissed off..or might look away or down. Now sometimes its surprising because even for normal stuff...she might do this. So I asked one of the girls why she did that and she said..well you came across as an asshole.
Before I asked her why she acted pissed off, I was constantly thinking and rationalizing that my VOICE pissed her off. But, after I asked her, I figured that my words triggered that emotional response.

So I want to know that is it really voice triggering that emotional response or is it words? And even if it's the voice, then people (and their RAS) will always find reasons to blame it on your words right? cuz they don't know that voice/how you say works underneath..so they will think they got pissed off because of what you said..? I even noticed that when I talk to fellow guys and I can see in their eyes..the emotions gets triggered and they talk in breaking rapport to me or as if i just dissed them...

This is one of my main sticking points where when I am talking I am not able to put full focus on conversation and instead worrying about if she likes my voice or not and does not get pissed off at the voice...So Please your suggestions would really help me move past this block..

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